A few weeks before Christmas Beth was surprised to see Steven coming out of the bathroom with his head dripping wet. "Steven, how come your head is wet?" she asked. "I want a different hairstyle," was the answer. Beth tried to help, but Steven's hair was uncompromising. At Christmas time Steven found hair gel and a new comb in his stocking and he's been working on a new "do" ever since. Seeing pictures of Steven, Patty would ask him over the phone, "Do you want mommy to send you money for a haircut? It seems like Daddy Keith isn't taking good care of you." "No mom. I just want different hair." "But mommy thinks you need a haircut. Let mommy send you money for a haircut." "No mom, I'm O.K." After letting Steven's hair grow for a short time, Keith got out the clippers and gave him a brand new look. Steven was grinning from ear to ear.
Now this may not sound "blog-worthy", but for us it's a very positive sign. For the first time in his life Steven is being allowed to create his own identity. He's gradually getting strong enough to say "no" to his mother, and he's deciding who Steven really is. Isn't it wonderful? I love it!
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
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I'm so happy to hear this! It's wonderful that Steven is being allowed to "find himself." It is a big thing, especially for this boy.
luv, Charlotte
I wish I would have had time to give him a new haircut.
"Not blog worthy" my patooty. This sense of self he is discovering is one of the BIGGEST steps he will be taking in this journey. This step is usually what the "terrible two's" are for. So is his realization that he no longer needs to always placate Mommy anymore. Just from reading this you can see (and feel) the fear chipping off of him. High-five to Steven!!
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